Nobody deserves to be treated poorly in a relationship.
However, mistreatment in a relationship isn’t always obvious at first. It usually comes as a shock to the one on the receiving end of the mistreatment when they realize that the one they love is manipulating or taking advantage of them—or, worse, abusing them.
Before we go any further, let me remind you that you deserve to be loved just as you are.
Today, we have a collection of songs about deserving better in a relationship. Perhaps it can put things in perspective with regards to where you are right now in your own relationship.
The tracks in this collection might help you make an important decision and take a step forward on the path toward real happiness.
1. I Have Questions, Camila Cabello
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“Why did you leave me here to burn? I'm way too young to be this hurt. I gave you all of me. My blood, my sweat, my heart, and my tears. Why don't you care?… I was there… when no one was… Now you're gone and I'm here.”
The girl in this relationship laments the fact that the one she loves doesn’t seem to care about her.
She has become heavily invested in the relationship, giving it everything she has and everything she is, yet the other person doesn’t want to reciprocate.
2. Irreplaceable, Beyoncé
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“I could have another you in a minute. Matter of fact he'll be here in a minute, baby. You must not know 'bout me… I can have another you by tomorrow. So don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable.”
Many people who treat others badly in a relationship do so by making their partners believe that they are not worthy of being loved, or that no one else could love them.
This song is about reclaiming one’s power after ending a relationship with someone who mistreated them.
It’s a strong declaration that nobody is irreplaceable in a relationship. In fact, the next person might be better.
3. I Look So Good Without You, Jessie James
“Hey, boy, I would have thought that when you said that you don't want me I'd feel ugly and sense something was wrong. Standin' in front of the mirror, my skin's never been clearer, my smile has never been wider. I look so good without you. Got me a new hairdo. Looking fresh and brand new since you said that we're through.”
The disparaging things that a partner says in a relationship can take its toll and affect one’s self-esteem.
In this song, the singer declares that life is actually better now that her ex-partner is gone from her life.
Keep in mind that, in any relationship, you deserve to be treated with respect. If you’re receiving less than this, then it’s time to move on.
4. Can I Be Him, James Arthur
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“I heard there was someone but I know he don't deserve you. If you were mine I'd never let anyone hurt you, no, no. I wanna dry those tears, kiss those lips. It's all that I've been thinking about. ‘Cause a light came on when I heard that song and I want you to sing it again.”
This song is about a guy professing his love for a woman. He’s heard that she’s in a relationship where she might not be treated as well as she deserves.
The guy’s wishing that, instead, he could be the person the woman is in a relationship with.
5. (It Looks Like) I'll Never Fall in Love Again, Tom Jones
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“I gave my heart so easily. I cast aside my pride. But when you fell for someone else, baby, I broke up all inside. And it looks like I'm never gonna fall in love again. That's why I'ma sing it, fall in love, no, I'm never gonna fall in love again.”
When you’ve been betrayed and hurt in a relationship, it’s natural to be fearful of opening yourself up to others again. This painful experience can even cause you to swear off being romantically involved ever again, as in this song.
6. You Ruin Me, The Veronicas
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“Cause you play me like a symphony. Play me 'til your fingers bleed. I'm your greatest masterpiece. You ruin me. Later when the curtain's drawn, and no one's there for you back home, don't cry to me you played me wrong. You ruin me.”
In this song, a woman laments the time when she was taken advantage of in a relationship. She thought that she was truly loved by her partner, but this person was unfaithful to her. She feels like she has been played, and this painful experience may have ruined her positive outlook about love and relationships.
7. You Belong With Me, Taylor Swift
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“If you could see that I'm the one who understands you. Been here all along. So why can't you see? You belong with me.”
This song talks about how some people chase after others who do not really appreciate them. Unfortunately, these same people fail to see that there might actually be someone who truly cares and understands them, but who might not be brave enough (yet) to say how they truly feel.
8. Put My Heart Down, Sara Evans
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“Just leave some air to breathe. A million toxic tears falling like rain around here. This is the final hour. The end of our story tonight. I don't wanna fight. So put my heart down… and walk away.”
In this song, Sara Evans sings about the “the final hours” of a toxic relationship. Perhaps the relationship was built on codependency, and now one partner no longer wants to be in it. It’s time to walk away.
9. Playing With Fire, Thomas Rhett feat. Jordin Sparks
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“I don't know why I don't put it out, baby. We kiss and the flames just get higher. But, yeah, I know when I hold onto you, baby. I'm all tangled up in barbed wire. I get burned, I don't learn. I'll be back, give it time. Yeah, I know, it sounds crazy but I guess I like playing with fire.”
In this song, the guy knows that he’s being hurt. However, like many codependent individuals, he chooses not to step away from the unhealthy situation and keeps seeing the person who hurts him.
10. Leave Me Lonely, Ariana Grande feat. Macy Gray
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“You're a dangerous love. And, baby, you're no good for me, darling. ‘Cause if you're gonna love me and leave me hanging here, then I'd rather you leave me lonely. Even though it hurts, you're a dangerous love.”
Here is another song where the individual recognizes how dangerous and unhealthy it is to be with someone who mistreats them. In this case, the person chooses to be alone (and lonely) rather than continue to be mistreated by the one she loves.
11. Hustle, P!nk
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“I gave you soft, I gave you sweet. Just like a lion, you came for a sheep. Oh no, don't try to hustle me. You took my love, mistook it for weakness. I guarantee I won't repeat this. No, don't try to hustle me.”
This song is about someone who has given almost everything for the one she loves, and yet was still treated poorly. She may also have been ridiculed and had her loved declared as a weakness.
She vows never to allow others to treat her that way again.
12. Grenade, Bruno Mars
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“Gave you all I had and you tossed it in the trash. You tossed it in the trash, yes you did. To give me all your love is all I ever ask. ‘Cause what you don't understand is I'd catch a grenade for ya. Throw my hand on a blade for ya. I'd jump in front of a train for ya. You know I would do anything for ya.”
First released in 2010, this song from Bruno Mars is about a guy who is in a relationship with someone who just takes and takes. He definitely deserves better.
In the song, he declares that he’s even willing to take a grenade for the one he loves. Unfortunately, the person fails to reciprocate his feelings.
13. Ex-Factor, Lauryn Hill
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“No matter how I think we grow, you always seem to let me know. It ain't working… And when I try to walk away, you'd hurt yourself to make me stay. This is crazy.”
Many narcissists are capable of making it appear as if they’re the victims in a relationship. This is what Lauryn Hill’s song is all about.
Leaving a narcissist is not easy. It takes careful planning if you want to get out of a relationship with one.
14. Don't Say You Love Me, Fifth Harmony
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“So don't say you miss me when you don't call. And don't say you're hurting without the scars. Don't promise me tonight without tomorrow, too. Don't say you love me unless you do…”
In some relationships, people promise a lot of things. However, for these people, the promises are only a hook for their partners to hang on. All the while, they may be taking advantage of their partners’ trust in them.
This song is about someone who’s had enough of empty promises. They want their partner to mean what they say.
15. You Lost Me, Christina Aguilera
“Now I know you're sorry, and we were sweet. But you chose lust when you deceived me, and you'll regret it. But it's too late. How can I ever trust you again?”
Once trust is broken in a relationship, it’s hard to bring it back. In this song, Christina Aguilera laments the fact that her trust for her partner is broken after an incident of infidelity.
On a related note, here's our list top songs about trust issues in relationships.
16. Know Your Worth, Khalid x Disclosure
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“You don't know your worth. All the things I know that you deserve. Say that it's not real if it doesn't hurt. Find someone you know will put you first. Find someone who loves you at your worst.”
This song reminds listeners that they need to know their own worth. It encourages them to find someone who will make them a priority and love them even in their worst moments.
17. Somebody That I Used to Know, Gotye feat. Kimbra
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“Now and then, I think of all the times you screwed me over. But had me believing it was always something that I'd done. But I don't wanna live that way. Reading into every word you say. You said that you could let it go and I wouldn't catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know.”
This song from Gotye is about someone who’s had enough with how badly their partner has treated them.
They may have initially believed that it was their fault they were treated that way.
However, the finally realize that the mistreatment was really because of their (former) partner’s attitude. Now, they’re walking away from all that toxicity.
Final Thoughts
Everyone deserves to be treated with decency and respect.
If you’re not being treated well in your relationship, you have the choice of demanding respect from your partner or walking away.
We encourage open communication with your partner to work out any issues in your relationship.
Hopefully this collection of songs about deserving better in a relationship has opened the path to greater self-love and self-respect.
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