Have you ever been on a date and the conversation has gone stale? You can't think of what to say next, or your date is being quiet. Whether you're on a first date, or you've been together a long time, date conversations can lag from time to time.
It’s not your fault. It happens. Life happens… and we sometimes find ourselves distracted. When this happens, you can always use would you rather questions for couples to get the conversation flowing again.
Not only can these questions be a great way to get to know each other or reconnect… but they can also be loads of fun!
What are Would You Rather Questions?
Would you rather questions are questions that make you choose between two options. Sometimes, they can be funny. Other times, they can be serious or even thought-provoking.
Either way, your date's answer can help you learn more about them. They are also great conversation starters because you can discuss the options. And for the questions that come across as far-fetched, silly or crazy, you’ll get the chance to explain what made you think of them… which can lead to more laughs and deeper conversation.
The Importance of Communication in a Relationship
Honestly, asking questions is great… but the question itself should not be your main focus. Instead, you should focus on creating open lines of communication.
Communication is important in a relationship for the following reasons:
Without communication, you won't know each other's wants and needs. Furthermore, you might not be on the same path.
Communication helps you establish trust, respect, and support for each other. Ultimately, proper, healthy communication helps us draw closer to each other.
This is true for all stages of a relationship. Relationships must start with healthy communication, and it takes healthy communication to keep a relationship strong.
So now that we’ve established the importance of open and honest communication, here is our list of 101 would you rather questions for date night to get you well on your way to forming the deeper connection you crave.
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101 Would Rather Questions for Couples
You’ll find some of these questions entertaining, some more philosophical… and others may be just plain weird, but all of them are guaranteed to help get the conversation started. And, who knows, you may even be inspired to create some of your own!
- Would you rather have a dog or a cat?
- Would you rather splash in the puddles or stay in with a book after it rains?
- Would you rather tour Europe or tour Asia?
- Would you rather not brush your teeth for 1 week or not shower for 2 weeks?
- Would you rather have more time or have more money?
- Would you rather take a stroll on the beach or hike in the mountains?
- Would you rather go to bed early or stay up late?
- Would you rather celebrate your birthday quietly at home or with a bunch of people at a restaurant?
- Would you rather have cake or pie?
- Would you rather have vanilla or strawberry ice cream?
- Would you rather ask for help or do it on your own?
- Would you rather always be 10 minutes late or always 20 minutes early?
- Would you rather be an artist or an athlete?
- Would you rather go back in time or go to the future?
- Would you rather be too hot or too cold?
- Would you rather live in the city or in the country?
- Would you rather stay up late to end an argument or go to bed with it unresolved?
- Would you rather go to the movies or to a baseball game?
- Would you rather read a book or watch a movie?
- Would you rather go on a casual picnic or eat in a fancy restaurant?
- Would you rather be a great singer or a great dancer?
- Would you rather be able to fly or to read people’s minds?
- Would you rather be embarrassed in front of your partner’s parents or their boss?
- Would you rather be trapped in a jungle or a haunted house?
- Would you rather be a chef or a doctor?
- Would you rather be with someone that’s always on their phone or someone that goes through your phone?
- Would you rather have constant bad breath or constant body odor?
- Would you rather earn more money than your partner or have them earn more money than you?
- Would you rather get matching tattoos or matching piercings?
- Would you rather get an expensive gift or a thoughtful one?
- Would you rather hear a baby laugh or feel a cat purr?
- Would you rather lose your sense of smell or your sense of taste?
- Would you rather be the smartest person in the room or the best looking person in the room?
- Would you rather fly to the moon or explore the depths of the ocean?
- Would you rather line dance or hip-hop dance?
- Would you rather go back to the 90s or the early 2000s?
- Would you rather have no social media for a year or no books for a year?
- Would you rather have a large sum of money and hate your job or have a small sum of money and do something that you love?
- Would you rather be a skilled writer or a skilled speaker?
- Would you rather be 20 for the rest of your life or be 40 for the rest of your life?
- Would you rather forget the worst moment of your life or remember the best moment of your life?
- Would you rather watch a horror movie or a romantic comedy?
- Would you rather watch ballet or go bowling?
- Would you rather be stuck on a deserted island with your best friend and no food or alone with plenty to eat?
- Would you rather watch the sunrise or the sunset?
- Would you rather be pinched for 5 minutes or tickled for 5 minutes?
- Would you rather lose internet access for 4 hours or lose TV access for 24 hours?
- Would you rather win an award for your singing or for your acting?
- Would you rather be given an all-expenses-paid vacation or $10,000 cash?
- Would you rather get $1 million now or $100K every year for 10 years?
- Would you rather go to the dentist or the doctor?
- Would you rather give up fruits or vegetables?
- Would you rather exercise alone or in a group?
- Would you rather never have to exercise again or never have to eat healthy again?
- Would you rather lose your sight or speech?
- Would you rather do something nice for someone or buy them something nice?
- Would you rather give gifts or receive gifts?
- Would you rather know when a surprise is coming or know what the surprise is?
- Would you rather be with someone that makes you laugh or be with someone that makes you think?
- Would you rather clean the toilet or the shower drain?
- Would you rather hire a cleaner or a personal chef?
- Would you rather wash dishes or do laundry?
- Would you rather die young with no regrets or die old with many regrets?
- Would you rather have a photographic memory or be able to forget any memory you want?
- Would you rather never be able to hear your favorite song again or be able to hear only your favorite song for the rest of your life?
- Would you rather always be tired or always be hungry?
- Would you rather lose all the memories you made last year or be able to remember only the memories you made last year?
- Would you rather never be able to travel or never be able to go home?
- Would you rather have a full tank of gas or a full cell phone battery?
- Would you rather jog in the daytime together or take strolls in the evening?
- Would you rather be someone that dresses in black all the time or someone that only wears bright colors all the time?
- Would you rather live on the same street as your partner or work in the same building as your partner?
- Would you rather take long walks together or long drives together?
- Would you rather your significant other looked like a child or acted like a child?
- Would you rather have a partner that talks to their pet or one that listens to their pet?
- Would you rather chew loudly in public or eat really fast in public?
- Would you rather have a house that looked bad or smelled bad?
- Would you rather be the richest garbage man in the world or the poorest banker in the world?
- Would you rather be rich and lonely or poor and surrounded by friends?
- Would you rather your partner have a rickety car or no car at all?
- Would you rather eat burnt food or half-cooked food?
- Would you rather meet your partner’s parents first or have them meet your parents first?
- Would you rather your partner picks their nose or picks their teeth?
- Would you rather be ambitious or be funny?
- Would you rather have to give up TV or have to give up books?
- Would you rather have tea or coffee?
- Would you rather have a game night with friends or go out with friends?
- Would you rather have the same hobby as your partner or have different hobbies?
- Would you rather you and your partner have similar music tastes or similar food tastes?
- Would you rather be a good cook but messy around the house or a bad cook and neat?
- Would you rather never feel physical pain or emotional pain?
- Would you rather be a genius with poor social skills or have high emotional intelligence with poor academic skills?
- Would you rather rent or own?
- Would you rather do too much and feel burned out or have lots of free time but feel like you’re missing out?
- Would you rather listen to music from another decade or music from today for 9 hours straight?
- Would you rather learn a new instrument or a new language?
- Would you rather find out your money was stolen or find out your car was stolen?
- Would you rather text or call someone?
- Would you rather be on a reality survival show or a reality dating show?
- Would you rather be with someone that hates your favorite food or with someone that hates your pet?
- Would you rather be able to only scream or not be able to talk for a whole day?
Final Thoughts on Would You Rather Questions for Couples
I think we can agree that these would you rather questions will generate discussion… and that's a good thing! A healthy relationship needs communication to survive and thrive.
Talking about things is how you build trust and strengthen the bond between the two of you. Plus, you can never know everything about a person. Can you? With these questions, you can learn more about your partner over time… and find some of their answers surprise you.
If we’ve got you hooked on the idea, check out our blog with 131 Deep Would You Rather Questions to Know Someone Better.
Finally, if you want to ask better questions, then watch this short, 20-minute course to learn how to have a great conversation with virtually anyone.
